The skill of finding the good thing inside the bad event is not positive thinking — it is a deep structural reorientation toward difficulty itself. Nasreddin lost his donkey, shrugged, and said 'perhaps it needed a rest from me as much as I from it' — and in that sentence was an entire philosophy of loss. Joy found in difficulty is not a consolation prize; it is often the only form of joy that has been genuinely earned.
Each step builds on the last.