How do I stop punishing people who give me honest feedback?

You have noticed something hard to admit: the people who tell you the truth tend to get a colder version of you afterward, even though you never set out to punish them. That awareness is real progress, because a pattern you cannot see runs you, and one you can see, you can start to change. Think about what honesty from those people actually costs them. Telling you a hard truth is a risk, and often a gift; they could have stayed quiet and comfortable. When that gift is met with a chill, the lesson everyone learns is to stop giving it. Slowly you end up surrounded by people who only tell you what is easy, which is a lonely and blind place to lead from. So catch the reaction and reverse it on purpose. The next time someone gives you honest feedback, notice the urge to pull back, and instead thank them plainly and specifically. Then make sure they lose nothing for their honesty. Rewarding truth a few times, visibly, teaches people it is safe to keep telling it to you, and that is worth far more than the comfort of never hearing it.