What if my work leaves my partner carrying everything at home?

Your job has quietly handed your partner the whole load, the logistics, the children, the endless invisible managing of a shared life, because you are so rarely available. They are running everything while you run your career, and you can feel the imbalance wearing the relationship thin. That you see it clearly is the beginning of setting it right. This kind of imbalance rarely comes from one bad decision. It builds slowly, one late night and one missed handoff at a time, until one person is holding a life alone while the other is holding a job. Your partner's tiredness is not nagging. It is the fair exhaustion of someone doing two people's work. Hearing that without defending yourself is the first real gift you can give here. So take something back, concretely and soon. Pick a specific piece of the home load, a regular one, and own it fully, not as a favour but as your share. Then ask your partner what would help most and actually listen. One reliably carried responsibility is worth more than a hundred apologies. You cannot rebalance the whole thing overnight, but you can pick up one real piece of the weight this week.