Who am I outside of my job?

You have poured so much of yourself into the role that the role and the self have blurred together. You feel it in the small things, how you introduce yourself, how you fill your free time, who you are at a party when the work talk runs out. That is not vanity. It is what happens when one thing is given nearly everything for years. But you are not your title, however deeply it feels that way. The title is something you do, one true and real part of a much larger life. The proof is simple: you existed before this role and you will exist after it, and that continuous person underneath is who you actually are. The job borrowed your identity. It does not own it. Start giving small attention to the rest of you. Once this week, do something that has nothing to do with work and is just yours, an old interest, a walk, a person you like. Notice that you are still someone in that hour. That someone is who you are rebuilding.