How do I stop feeling ashamed of my body when society has different standards?

Sor Juana wrote in a time when her body—a woman's body, an Indigenous body, an intellectual body—was supposed to be invisible. She refused that erasure. What you're feeling isn't weakness; it's the weight of other people's expectations pressing down on your own sense of self. The question isn't whether society's standards are unfair—they are—but whether you'll let them be the only voice in the room when you look in the mirror. Start by noticing whose standards you've internalized. Are they really yours, or did they arrive as inheritance? Your body isn't a problem to solve or a canvas for external judgment. It's the vessel through which you experience your own life, your own thoughts, your own becoming. When shame arises, try asking: Whose voice is this? What would happen if I believed in my own body's rightness, not despite its difference, but because of it? The work isn't about loving your body on command—that's another external demand. It's about building a quiet, stubborn relationship with yourself that no standard can touch. You might start by naming one thing your body does well that has nothing to do with appearance.