How do I know which version of myself to show at work versus home?

Sor Juana lived this tension deeply—she wore the habit of a nun while her mind was somewhere else entirely. The question isn't really about being fake; it's about recognizing that context shapes what's safe to express. You're not dishonest for being more reserved with your boss than your best friend. What matters is whether the masks you wear are *your choice* or whether you've internalized someone else's rules about who you're allowed to be. Start by noticing: which parts of yourself do you hide because you genuinely need to protect yourself versus which parts do you hide because you've accepted someone else's judgment as truth? That distinction matters. You can be strategic about self-presentation without fragmenting into pieces. The real work is keeping at least one space—maybe just internal, maybe with one trusted person—where you don't perform. That's where integration happens. Your different selves aren't lies; they're facets. But they need to feel like they belong to the same person, or you'll exhaust yourself managing the contradiction.