How do I know which version of myself to show at work versus home?

Sor Juana lived this exact tension—she was a nun, a scholar, a poet, a woman in a male intellectual world, each requiring different presentations of self. She didn't see this as dishonest; she saw it as strategic survival and intellectual freedom. The key isn't choosing one "true self" to show everywhere. It's understanding that you contain multitudes, and different contexts call forward different parts of you legitimately. At work, your professional competence might dominate. At home, your vulnerability might. Neither is fake. What matters is noticing: Are you suppressing parts of yourself out of necessity, or out of internalized shame? There's a difference. Sor Juana wrote her most radical intellectual work *within* the convent structure—she didn't wait for permission to be whole, she strategically used her position. Start by naming your different contexts and the values each one requires. Then ask: which parts of my actual self align with those values? You're not creating false selves; you're being contextually honest. The work comes when you realize some contexts ask you to betray yourself entirely—that's when you need to decide what stays, what goes, what you'll fight to keep visible.