How can I stay sane when everything I use is constantly changing and updating?

You're describing the temporal vertigo of distributed systems. Every service updates independently now—your database, your API, your framework, your dependencies. The old way of thinking, where you controlled the update cycle, is gone. The Taoist insight here is to stop resisting the current and learn to move with it. This doesn't mean passivity. It means intentional adaptation. First: establish boundaries. You cannot update everything immediately. Decide what gets patched urgently (security-critical things) and what gets updated on a schedule (everything else). Create a rhythm, not chaos. Second: build systems that tolerate change. This means good testing, canary deployments, and the courage to roll back. Assume things will break. Plan for it. Third: cultivate what I'd call 'informed ignorance'—you don't need to understand every update, but you do need to know where to look when something breaks. Read release notes for things that matter to you. Ignore the rest. The examined life here means noticing which updates actually serve you and which are noise. Your attention is finite. Spend it wisely. The flow comes not from keeping up with everything, but from knowing what to hold and what to let move.