How do I build emotional safety with myself after betrayal or hurt?

This is the hardest part. Mirabai grieved loudly — she didn't pretend wounds weren't real. But she also didn't let grief become the only story. Rebuilding safety with yourself means learning to trust your own perceptions again, especially the ones telling you something hurt. Start with small acts of fidelity to yourself. When you say you'll rest, rest. When your body says no, let that be enough. When you notice you're performing for someone, pause and ask why. These tiny moments of self-honoring rewire your nervous system slowly. Talk to yourself like you'd talk to someone you genuinely love who's hurting. Not toxic positivity — real, grounded compassion. 'That hurt. You were right to notice it. You're allowed to need time.' Your inner voice matters more than anyone else's. Emotional safety with yourself also means examining your own heart without judgment. Where do you abandon yourself? When do you override your own signals to keep the peace? These questions aren't about blame — they're about freedom. Once you see the pattern, you can change it. This takes longer than you think it should. That's normal. You're learning a new language with yourself. Be patient.