How do I know if I'm in a emotionally unsafe relationship or situation?

Emotional safety isn't about perfection — it's about whether you can be honest without bracing for harm. Mirabai knew this. She loved openly, grieved publicly, examined her own heart relentlessly. But she also left situations that required her to disappear. Notice: Do you edit yourself heavily around someone? Does your gut tighten before conversations? Are your feelings regularly invalidated, mocked, or used against you? Do you feel responsible for managing someone else's emotions constantly? These aren't small things. They're your nervous system telling you something true. Emotional safety means someone can handle your grief without trying to fix it. They can disagree without contempt. They don't punish you for having boundaries. You don't have to perform to be acceptable. Start by naming one specific moment when you felt unsafe — not dramatic, just real. What made it unsafe? Was it their words, tone, the pattern it fit into? Sometimes clarity comes from specific moments, not vague feelings. You don't need to decide anything yet. Just notice. Your examined heart already knows something is off, or you wouldn't be asking.