How do I know if I'm in a codependent relationship or just being a good partner?

Mirabai knew the difference between devotion and dissolution. She loved fiercely, but she never lost herself in that love—her heart remained examined, sovereign. The question isn't how much you give; it's whether you're giving from wholeness or from a fear of abandonment. A good partner shows up fully and can also step back. You can be generous without tracking every sacrifice. You can care deeply without needing their approval to know your own worth. Codependency whispers that your value lives in their need for you. Real love whispers that you're already whole. Notice: Do you feel anxious when they're distant? Do you reshape yourself to keep the peace? Do you know what you want separate from what they want? These aren't moral questions—they're clarity questions. Mirabai's examined heart means you get to ask yourself honestly: Am I here because I choose this, or because I'm afraid of what happens if I don't? That distinction changes everything.