How do I know if I'm actually committed or just afraid to leave?

Mirabai knew the difference because she felt it in her body. Fear keeps you small and contracted—you're managing, negotiating, protecting yourself. Commitment, even when hard, opens something. There's a generosity in it, even in the grief. Ask yourself: Am I staying because I'm choosing this person or this path over and over? Or am I staying because the alternative feels impossible? One feels like a yes. The other feels like a cage you've learned to live in. The tricky part: commitment *does* cost you. Freedom, options, parts of yourself. But you give those things willingly because what you're building matters more. Fear, by contrast, takes without asking. It makes you small in ways that slowly erase you. Mirabai left her marriage because her commitment to truth—to her examined heart—was stronger than her commitment to staying. That's the clarifying question: What matters more? What are you willing to lose for? When you can answer that honestly, you'll know what you're actually doing here.