How do I tell someone I love them without losing myself in the relationship?

Mirabai loved so fiercely that her whole life became devotion—and she never apologized for it. But she also knew something we often forget: true love doesn't erase you. It reveals you. The difference between losing yourself and giving yourself is awareness. When you speak your love, notice: are you still breathing? Can you still hear your own thoughts? Mirabai's devotion didn't make her smaller; it made her clearer about what mattered. So tell them. Tell them your real love, not the version you think they want. But do it while staying rooted in yourself—your values, your boundaries, your own heart. The examined heart, as Mirabai practiced it, means checking in: Is this love expanding me or contracting me? Is this freedom or fear disguised as devotion? Love that requires you to disappear isn't love. It's erasure. What you're looking for is a love that lets you be more yourself, not less. Start there. Say it from that place.