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How do I know if my desires are changing or if I'm just being restless?
Mirabai spent her life loving Krishna with a devotion so absolute that everything else—family, reputation, comfort—fell away. But her love wasn't static. It deepened, transformed, broke open in new ways. The difference between restlessness and real change is attention. Restlessness is a flutter; you're running from something. Real change is a pull toward something, even if it scares you. Try this: sit with what you want for three weeks without acting on it. Write about it. Does it deepen or fade? Does it ask something of you, or just promise escape? Mirabai's heart was examined constantly—she knew the difference between spiritual longing and spiritual tourism. Your desires deserve the same rigor. When something is genuinely shifting in you, it usually shows up consistently, even when you're tired or distracted. It has weight. The restless thing evaporates when you stop feeding it attention. Pay attention to what stays.
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Is it selfish to want something just for myself?+
Mirabai loved Krishna so fiercely that it freed her from everyone's expectations. That's not selfish—that's honest. The examined heart knows the difference: selfish is wanting what's yours while denying others theirs. But naming what you want, pursuing it with awareness? That's integrity. Freedom starts there.
What if my desire conflicts with what I'm supposed to want?+
Mirabai's family wanted her to be a dutiful wife. She wanted union with the divine. She chose her desire and lived with the cost. 'Supposed to' is often someone else's blueprint. The real question: can you live well with your choice, or will resentment poison it? Choose consciously.
How do I grieve something I wanted but won't have?+
Mirabai grieved Krishna's absence constantly—it's woven through her poetry. Grief means it mattered. Let yourself feel it without rushing to 'move on.' Ungrieved desire hardens into bitterness. The sorrow is the love made visible. That's sacred too.