Why do I feel resentful toward my partner when our needs don't match?

Resentment is what happens when you swallow your own desire and then blame someone else for your silence. Mirabai didn't do that. She felt her longing acutely and let it break her open rather than harden her. Here's the pattern: You want something. Your partner doesn't seem to want it. Instead of saying so, you tell yourself it doesn't matter, you're being mature, you're not needy. Then, months later, you're angry at them for not giving you something you never actually asked for. They're the villain in a story they don't even know they're in. The resentment isn't really about them. It's about the gap between what you're pretending to want and what you actually want. It's grief, mostly. Grief for the partnership you imagined. Mirabai's devotion was radical because she didn't deny her grief. She lived inside it. She asked hard questions: What do I actually need? Can this person give it? Can I live without it? These aren't easy questions. They're also the only ones that matter. Start there. Not with your partner yet. With yourself. What are you actually angry about? Once you know, you can decide what to do with it—name it, accept it, or ask for something different. But you have to feel it first.