How do I know if I'm giving too much in my relationship without losing myself?

Mirabai loved fiercely, but her devotion never asked her to disappear. That's the distinction worth sitting with. Too much giving usually feels like erasure—you're managing their emotions, shrinking your own needs, or performing a version of love that exhausts you. Real devotion, the kind Mirabai knew, has a backbone. It says yes and no. It stays present to your own heart, not just theirs. Start by noticing: When you give, do you feel alive or drained? Are you giving from fullness or from fear of abandonment? There's a grief that comes with loving someone who can't meet you halfway—that's real and worth feeling. But there's also a different grief: losing yourself so thoroughly that you forget what you came to offer in the first place. Mirabai's examined heart is your template here. Check in with yourself regularly, not selfishly, but honestly. What do you actually need? What are you pretending not to need? The people worth loving will want to know. And if they don't, that's information too. The boundary isn't against love—it's for it.