Why do I feel so much grief when falling in love or when love ends?

Mirabai understood something many of us avoid: love and grief are twins. When you fall in love, you're also falling into the knowledge that this person can be lost, that nothing lasts unchanged, that your heart is no longer entirely yours. That's beautiful and terrifying. Grief isn't only for endings—it starts the moment you admit you care. There's grief in the vulnerability, in the surrendering of control, in the slow realization that you cannot protect this love from time or circumstance. And yes, when love ends, the grief is real and valid and sometimes as deep as the love itself was. Mirabai wrote not as someone who escaped this—she lived in it. Her devotion to Krishna was inseparable from her longing and her sorrow. The examined heart doesn't run from this pain; it moves through it. It honors what was. It allows the grief to teach you about what matters. Instead of trying to 'get over it' quickly, try this: What is this grief showing you about how deeply you loved? What does it ask of you now? Sometimes grief, held gently, becomes a form of continued devotion. It's not weakness. It's evidence that your heart knows how to love.