What do I do when my partner wants different things than I do from our future?

This is where devotion gets complicated. Mirabai understood something essential: love that requires you to abandon yourself isn't love—it's erasure. And yet, partnership asks for real compromise. The difference is this: some differences can be held together. You want kids, they don't—that's structural and may not bend. You have different timelines for marriage, different financial values, different visions of home—these need honest negotiation, not sacrifice of self. First, get clear on what's non-negotiable for you. Not what sounds impressive or mature, but what you actually need to feel like yourself in this life. Then ask your partner the same. Some of those might overlap. Some won't. Here's what matters: Can you both speak the truth without trying to convince the other to shrink? Can you grieve what you won't have together and still choose each other? Or are you choosing each other despite living separate inner lives? Mirabai teaches us that real partnership—like real devotion—asks you to keep examining your own heart. Not to leave, necessarily. But to stay awake. If you're staying because you're afraid of disappointing them, or afraid of being alone, that's not partnership. That's debt. Have the conversation where you both tell the truth.