What does it mean to love freely when you've been told love has conditions?

Mirabai's family didn't just forbid her love for Krishna—they tried to erase it. Marriage was a condition. Obedience was a condition. A 'proper' woman's role was a condition. And she looked at all of it and said: no. Her love wasn't reckless; it was radical because it was free. Conditional love teaches you to perform, to earn, to constantly prove your worth. It becomes background noise in your nervous system: *Am I enough? Will they leave if I change? What if I disappoint them?* That exhaustion isn't love—it's transaction. Free love doesn't mean consequence-free or without boundaries. Mirabai had fierce boundaries. It means loving from wholeness, not from hunger. It means you don't diminish yourself to fit, and you don't demand others diminish themselves to stay. Start noticing where you're conditionalizing love—where you're holding back parts of yourself, where you're keeping score, where you're afraid to ask for what you need. Those are the places where freedom is being stolen. Then ask: what would change if I loved myself first, without needing permission? Freedom in love is learned slowly. You'll stumble. You'll default to old patterns. That's normal. But once you've tasted it—that breath of showing up as yourself and being met there—you can't unknow it.