I feel guilty grieving because others have it worse than me is that normal?

Mirabai's grief was her own. She didn't measure it against anyone else's suffering or ask permission to feel it. But we do that, don't we? We rank our pain. We say it's not big enough, not valid enough, not *deserving* enough of our tears. This is a trap. Grief doesn't work on a hierarchy. Your loss matters because it's yours. Someone else's worse situation doesn't make your heartbreak smaller. Pain isn't a pie where someone else's bigger slice makes yours disappear. What you're describing—comparative grief—is actually a symptom worth noticing. It can be a way depression whispers to you: *See? You don't even have the right to feel bad.* It's a way of delegitimizing yourself before anyone else can. Mirabai loved fiercely and grieved fiercely. She didn't apologize for the size of her feeling. Neither should you. Your loss is real. Your heart breaking over it is appropriate. The examined heart doesn't question whether it's allowed to break—it breaks, and then it learns to hold the breaking. If you're stuck in this guilt-loop, that's actually something to bring to a therapist. Not because your grief is wrong, but because the guilt is stealing from you. You deserve to feel what you feel without the extra weight of shame.