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How long does grief last and when will I feel normal again?
Mirabai knew something about this. She loved Krishna so completely that when he wasn't there, the absence rewrote her entire life. And here's what matters: she didn't wait for grief to finish before she kept living. There's no expiration date on missing someone. Some days it softens into a quiet ache. Some days it hits fresh. After a few months, you might notice you go hours without thinking about it—then feel guilty for that reprieve. That's normal too. What people mean by "feeling normal again" is usually "I can function without thinking about death every second." That typically comes in waves over 6-18 months, depending on who you lost and what they meant. But "normal" isn't the goal. Integration is. You're not trying to forget or "move on" like you're leaving them behind. You're learning to carry them differently—the way Mirabai carried Krishna, as a presence that shaped how she loved, wrote, and saw the world. Your grief is evidence of how much they mattered. That won't disappear, and it shouldn't. What changes is your capacity to hold it alongside joy, work, connection—the rest of your life.
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Is it okay to laugh and feel happy while grieving?+
Yes. Absolutely yes. Mirabai danced and sang even in her deepest longing. Grief and joy aren't opposites—they coexist in the same heart. Laughing doesn't mean you've forgotten or stopped caring. It means you're still alive, still capable of being moved. Many grieving people feel guilty for this. Don't. Your person would likely want you to have moments of lightness.
How do I tell people I'm still grieving months or years later?+
Simply: "I'm still processing this loss." You don't owe anyone a timeline. Some losses unfold slowly. Some resurface during holidays, anniversaries, or random Tuesdays. You might say: "I'm doing better, and I'm also still sad sometimes." Both are true. Real friends understand that grief doesn't follow a schedule.
What if I can't cry or feel much of anything after a loss?+
Numbness is a legitimate grief response, not a sign you didn't care enough. Your mind sometimes protects you by dimming the intensity until you can metabolize it. This might last weeks or months. It's not wrong. When you're ready, the feelings often surface—sometimes in unexpected ways. Be patient with yourself.