How do I stop trying to move on from grief and actually live with it?

Mirabai knew something we often forget: grief doesn't end, it transforms. The question isn't how to get over loss—it's how to let it become part of your texture, the way scar tissue is still your skin. Integration means you stop waiting for the day you feel normal again. Instead, you notice grief showing up in unexpected moments—a song, a season, someone's laugh—and you let it be there without it derailing you. It's not about acceptance in the passive sense. It's active. It's saying: this person mattered, this loss changed me, and I'm going to build a life that honors both things. Start small. Don't try to process everything at once. Pick one way grief wants to move through you—maybe it's in conversation, maybe it's in something creative, maybe it's in how you show up for others now. The examined heart, as Mirabai practiced, isn't one that has figured everything out. It's one that keeps looking, keeps asking, keeps staying present to what's true. Your grief isn't something to graduate from. It's something to know more deeply.