How do I know if I'm confusing romantic love with spiritual love or devotion?

Mirabai lived this confusion her whole life—and that's exactly the point. She didn't separate them neatly. What she did was keep asking: *What am I giving my attention to? What am I becoming through this love?* Romantic love often wants something back—reciprocation, reassurance, a future. Spiritual devotion can want those things too, but it also asks you to keep loving even when nothing comes back. The real question isn't which one you're feeling. It's whether your love is making you more alive, more honest, more free—or whether it's shrinking you, making you wait for someone else's approval to matter. Mirabai's heart broke when her husband died, and she didn't transcend that grief into something "higher." She lived in both at once. The longing for the beloved—human or divine—teaches you something about yourself if you stay present to it. So sit with the not-knowing for a while. Notice what you're willing to lose. Notice what you refuse to lose. That clarity comes slower than you'd like, but it comes.