What should I do with things that belonged to the person I lost?

This is one of the hardest practical questions grief asks. Mirabai's life teaches us that objects hold devotion—but they don't hold the person. Her robes, her flute—these were sacred to her, yes. But what made them sacred was the love they represented, not their permanence. There's no rush. Let yourself sit with the belongings for as long as you need. Don't let anyone tell you when it's time. But also know: keeping everything as a shrine can sometimes keep you suspended in the sharpest moment of loss, unable to move into integration. Here's what might help: Choose a few things that genuinely spark a specific, warm memory—not obligation or guilt, but actual connection. Let those stay close. Everything else? You get to decide. Donate it. Sell it. Give it to someone who will use it. Let it go. None of these choices mean you didn't love enough. The examined heart asks: What am I keeping this for? To remember them? (You don't need objects for that.) To feel close? (They're not in the objects.) Or because guilt says I should? Your relationship with them isn't stored in their possessions. It lives in how you've changed, what they taught you, the way you love differently now. Trust that. Then let the things go with gratitude.