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How do I know if long distance love is worth the pain and sacrifice

Mirabai loved Krishna across an impossible distance—not just miles, but across the veil between human and divine. She didn't ask if it was worth it. She asked what love demanded of her, and she answered. That's the real question underneath yours. Long-distance love isn't automatically worth it because of the other person or the promise of someday. It's worth it when you're willing to be changed by the waiting, when the love pulls something true out of you that you didn't know was there. That said: be honest. Does this person meet you halfway in the effort? Are you both choosing this, or is one of you just enduring it? The pain doesn't sanctify a relationship that's already broken. But if you're both awake, both trying, both willing to let this distance teach you something about devotion versus dependency—then yes. It's worth something real. Not romance-movie worth. Human-becoming worth.

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Should I visit less often to protect my heart
No. Protecting your heart by creating more distance is just a slower goodbye. If the relationship is strong, visits should be a relief, not a threat. If visits hurt more than they help, that's different information—about whether this distance is temporary or permanent in your hearts.
How do I stop feeling resentful about the sacrifice
Name it first. You're not resentful about the miles—you're resentful about what you're giving up: spontaneity, presence, the ordinary rituals of being together. That's real. Once you name it, you can ask: Is this sacrifice mutual? Am I choosing it freely, or obligated? If it's mutual and chosen, resentment often softens into something closer to grief—which is honest, and manageable.
What if they say they can't do long distance anymore
Listen without defending. They might be right for themselves. You don't have to agree with their timeline to respect it. Mirabai's love didn't depend on Krishna meeting her on schedule. Neither does yours. But you do get to decide what you're willing to hold alone.
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