When should I visit my long-distance partner and how often is realistic?

This is where longing meets logistics, and both matter. Mirabai understood yearning—the pull toward union, the ache of waiting. But she also understood that some separations serve a purpose. They clarify what you're devoted to. Before you plan your next visit, get honest about two things: your actual capacity (financially, professionally, emotionally) and what kind of separation sustains your love versus what kind depletes it. Some couples need monthly visits. Others find that quarterly or twice-yearly works better—less logistical strain, more anticipation, more presence when you're together. The worst approach is unsustainable plans that breed resentment. If you're exhausting yourself trying to maintain a visit schedule that feels impossible, that's not devotion—that's desperation. Mirabai's love for Krishna didn't require her to be physically present; it required her to be awake. When you do visit, be fully there. Don't spend half the time planning the next trip or mourning the impending goodbye. Be in it. And between visits, have an honest conversation about what you're each working toward. Is this distance temporary? If so, when does it end? If not, can you accept it? Long-distance works when both people choose it with clear eyes, not when it's just endured.