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How do I know if I'm in love or just addicted to the relationship?
This is the question Mirabai kept asking herself, actually. She loved God so fiercely that people thought she'd lost her mind — but she knew the difference between obsession and devotion. The key is: real love expands you. It makes you more yourself, even when it hurts. Addiction shrinks you. You're managing the other person's moods, hiding parts of yourself, or checking your phone constantly because you need reassurance. Love makes you brave. Addiction makes you small. Notice what happens when the other person isn't around. Do you feel relieved and whole, or panicked and incomplete? In real love, you miss them. In addiction, you're terrified of yourself without them. The examined heart — that's what Mirabai called it — is willing to see the difference. Ask yourself: Am I choosing this person, or am I running from being alone? The honest answer will tell you everything.
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Why do I keep choosing unavailable or emotionally distant partners?+
Often it's not about them — it's that distance feels safe. Chasing someone who won't fully commit lets you avoid real vulnerability while still feeling the rush of love. It's a way to experience longing without the risk of being truly known. That's worth examining.
How can I tell if I'm just afraid of being alone?+
Spend a weekend alone without planning to see anyone. Notice: do you feel peaceful, or does panic set in? Do you reach for distractions? Fear of solitude often drives us into relationships we'd otherwise question. Real love survives — and deepens — in silence.
Is it normal to feel desperate when my partner pulls away?+
Desperate, yes — normal in our wiring. But it's also a signal. That desperation is your nervous system saying: I've made you responsible for my safety. That's not love's job. Love's job is to be present, not to complete you. Notice it. Don't judge it. Change it.