Should I disclose my disability to someone I'm starting to date?

This is a tender question because it sits at the intersection of self-protection and the desire to be known. Mirabai wrote about the vulnerability of love—how it requires revealing yourself. But revelation also requires choosing the right witness. There's no single timeline. Some disabilities are visible immediately; others aren't. Some affect dating early on; others emerge over time. What matters is this: don't disclose out of shame or apology. 'I have [condition]' is very different from 'I'm sorry, I have [condition].' The first is information. The second suggests you're broken. You're not. You're complex. Disclose because you want someone who knows you—the real you. That usually happens naturally, not on a first date, but when the relationship is moving toward intimacy or commitment. Watch how someone treats other people's limitations. Watch if they ask questions out of genuine curiosity or veiled worry. Watch if they listen. You're not obligated to disclose to someone who hasn't earned the privilege of your vulnerability. And you're not protecting anyone by hiding. You're just delaying honesty. The right person will want to know you fully—disability included. They might be scared at first. That's okay. Fear and love can live in the same space.