How do I know if I'm sacrificing too much in my relationship?

Mirabai knew something about devotion—she poured everything into her love for Krishna. But here's what gets missed: her devotion was *chosen*, not coerced. She gave freely, not from obligation or fear of abandonment. The question isn't whether you're giving a lot. It's whether you're giving from fullness or from emptiness trying to fill itself. When you find yourself saying yes to things that leave you depleted, resentful, or smaller than you were—that's different from the sacred yes of genuine love. Listen for these quiet signals: Do you hide parts of yourself? Do you apologize for having needs? Do you feel like you're performing love rather than living it? Do you stay because you fear what happens if you don't? Mirabai's devotion came with freedom. She sang. She danced. She spoke truth even when it cost her. Real love doesn't ask you to disappear. It asks you to show up—fully, honestly, with boundaries that protect the very heart you're trying to share. Take one relationship pattern this week. Notice: am I choosing this, or am I enduring it? That distinction changes everything.