How do I know if I'm in love or just infatuated with someone?

Mirabai spent her life asking harder questions about love—not to solve it, but to live it more honestly. Infatuation often feels like possession: you want the person to be a certain way, to complete you, to prove something about your worth. Love, the kind Mirabai knew, is different. It's about seeing someone clearly—their flaws, their limits, their realness—and choosing them anyway. It asks less of the other person and more of yourself: Can I stay present? Can I let them change? Can I love without needing them to need me back? The examined heart notices the difference. Infatuation makes you smaller; it narrows everything to one person. Love, real love, often makes you larger—more generous, more awake, more yourself. Pay attention to whether you're performing or resting. Notice if you're trying to be loved or trying to love. Mirabai's devotion teaches us that the deepest love is always tied to freedom—yours and theirs. If you're afraid of losing this person, that's often infatuation. If you're afraid of losing yourself in how you love them, you're asking the right questions. Sit with that discomfort. That's where the truth lives.