How do you build emotional intimacy with a partner in your sixties or seventies?

Mirabai knew something about this—she loved fiercely at every age, and her devotion deepened as she aged. The thing about emotional intimacy later is that you've usually shed the performances by then. You know what matters. Start by showing up as yourself, without the need to impress or fix anything. Ask your partner what they actually want to talk about, then listen without planning your response. Notice small things: how they take their coffee, what makes them laugh now that they're older, what griefs they carry. Physical touch matters—not always sex, but holding hands, a long hug, sitting close. The body doesn't stop wanting to be known. And vulnerability isn't weakness at this stage; it's honesty. Tell your partner what you're afraid of, what you want before it's too late. Mirabai wrote about love as a kind of surrender—not giving up yourself, but making space for another person's reality alongside your own. That's what intimacy is in the later years. You're not trying to become one person; you're practicing being fully present to each other's separate, aging, still-becoming selves. Start there.