How do I know if my partner and I speak different love languages?

You'll notice it in the small friction points. Maybe you leave love notes and they feel unseen, or they spend hours helping you move and you wonder where the romance went. Mirabai understood this intimately — her devotion was ecstatic and embodied, but her husband expected duty and tradition. The gap between what you give and what they receive isn't a failure of love; it's a map. Start by noticing: What makes you feel most loved? Acts of service? Time together? Words of affirmation? Physical touch? Gifts? Now notice what your partner actually does when they try to show love. That's usually their native language, not their intention. The hard part isn't identifying the difference — it's realizing that their language isn't wrong, just different. Mirabai had to grieve that her husband couldn't meet her where she was. But she also found freedom in that grief. Sometimes understanding the gap means you can bridge it consciously, with intention rather than resentment. Ask them directly: "When do you feel most loved by me?" Listen without fixing. That conversation itself is often the first real translation.