What does grief have to do with neurodivergent love and finding freedom?

Mirabai grieved her marriage to Krishna—not as failure, but as the death of a story she was told she should want. That grief cracked her open into freedom. Neurodivergent people often grieve preemptively: the neurotypical love we thought we should feel, the relationship templates we can't fit into, the versions of ourselves we tried to be for someone else. This grief is real and necessary. It's where freedom starts. You might grieve that you can't "just relax" in social situations, that your partner needs explanation of your internal world, that love requires more translation than you see others doing. Sit with that grief. Don't rush past it. In Mirabai's poetry, sorrow and devotion aren't opposites—they're the same fire, just burning different. The freedom isn't in never grieving; it's in grieving authentically and then asking: What do I actually want? Not what should I want, but what feeds my real heart? That question, asked in grief's honesty, opens everything.