How do I practice loving-kindness meditation when I'm angry at someone?

Mirabai knew something about anger—she wrote fiercely, questioned everything, loved recklessly. Metta practice isn't about forcing yourself to feel warm toward someone who's hurt you. It's about starting smaller. Begin with yourself. When you're angry, your nervous system is contracted. Trying to beam love at your antagonist is like asking a closed fist to open—it just tightens more. Instead, place your hand on your heart and acknowledge the hurt underneath the anger. "May I be safe. May I be at ease." This isn't weakness; it's honesty. Once you've tended to yourself, the anger often transforms into something more workable—grief, maybe, or clarity about what you actually need. Only then, if you choose, can you extend kindness toward the other person. Not because they deserve it. Because your own freedom depends on not carrying the weight of resentment. Mirabai's devotion was radical partly because it was examined—she didn't skip over the hard feelings. Neither should you.