Why do I keep attracting people with narcissistic traits into my life?

There's usually a wound underneath this question. Maybe you grew up with someone who needed constant management, whose moods shaped the room, whose love came with conditions. You learned to read people like radar. You became *good* at tolerating the intolerable because someone taught you that chaos was normal, or that love meant losing yourself. Narcissists recognize this in you—they can feel your willingness to absorb blame, to try harder, to believe you're the problem. Mirabai's devotion was real, but it was directed toward the divine, not toward a person who diminished her. She eventually broke that pattern by examining what she was devoted *to*—was it love, or was it fear? The work here isn't about swearing off relationships. It's about understanding your own attachment story. Where did you learn that you needed to earn love? Where did you practice accepting crumbs? Those are the places to sit with, grieve, and slowly rewire. When you can be okay alone—genuinely okay—you stop attracting people who depend on your abandonment of yourself.