Why do I keep choosing the same type of person who doesn't serve me well?

We're drawn to what's familiar, even when familiar hurt us. Mirabai chose devotion to something bigger than romantic love, and in doing so, she examined why she loved so hard, so blindly. That examination is the work. You keep choosing the same person because part of you believes you can finally get it right this time—that if you love harder, stay longer, compromise more, maybe this version will be different. They rarely are. The pattern isn't about them; it's about what you believe you deserve. Do you unconsciously seek someone unavailable because it lets you stay devoted without the vulnerability of being truly chosen? Are you attracted to people who need saving because it makes you feel essential? These aren't character flaws. They're wounds speaking. Start noticing: What do all these people have in common? Not their appearance or job—their role in your life. Do they all require you to be less yourself? All keep one foot out the door? All need your energy more than they give it? Write it down. Then ask the harder question: What would it mean about me if I chose someone stable, present, and genuinely kind? Sometimes we avoid that because it feels less like love and more like ordinariness. But that's where real love actually lives.