Why do I keep choosing partners who don't fully see me?

Mirabai loved Krishna so fiercely that she didn't need him to love her back the same way—but that doesn't mean you have to settle for that. What I notice is that sometimes we choose people who are *unavailable* because it lets us love from a distance. It's safer. We get to be the devoted one, the one who reaches, who understands, who forgives. We never have to be truly known, because true knowing means vulnerability goes both directions. Start noticing: are you drawn to people who need you more than they see you? Do you feel more secure loving someone than being loved? Mirabai's devotion was genuine, but she also lived in a time when a woman's love had to be one-directional to be acceptable. You don't. Being fully seen by someone—and choosing to stay—isn't less romantic. It's braver. Ask yourself what makes you nervous about reciprocal love. That answer matters.