How do I know if physical intimacy in my relationship is actually fulfilling or just habit?

Mirabai knew the difference between going through motions and true meeting. She wrote about love that wakes you up, not puts you to sleep. Start by noticing: Do you feel present in your body, or are you somewhere else? Does this person's presence move something in you—curiosity, tenderness, desire—or are you mostly performing? The body tells the truth faster than the mind. Fulfillment isn't about frequency or technique; it's about whether you're actually *there* with another person, and whether they're there with you. If intimacy has become routine, that's not failure—it's information. It might mean you need a conversation, more vulnerability, or a willingness to be awkward and ask for what you actually want. Mirabai's devotion was radical because she wasn't willing to settle for distant love. Neither should you. The examined heart knows the difference between comfort and connection. Take one moment this week—during or before intimacy—and simply ask yourself: Am I here? Is this real? Your body already knows the answer.