Why do I feel guilty about wanting pleasure and enjoying my body after heartbreak?

There's a old story that says grief and joy can't exist together—that pleasure is disloyal to loss. Mirabai rejected that completely. She danced, she sang, she let her body feel things fully—sorrow *and* ecstasy, sometimes in the same breath. After heartbreak, your body might feel like a betrayal: How dare it want anything? How dare it feel good when your heart is broken? But pleasure isn't a betrayal of grief. It's a sign you're still alive. It's your body saying: I survived this. I can still feel. That's not callousness—that's resilience. The guilt often comes from old messages: that good women suffer quietly, that moving on too quickly means you didn't really love them, that your pleasure doesn't matter. None of that is true. Mirabai knew that examined love—including examining what happened—doesn't require self-denial. It requires honesty. So yes, feel your grief fully. And also: take the bath. Dance alone in your room. Notice what makes you feel alive again. Your body's pleasure is part of your healing, not a contradiction to it. Guilt is the old story. Freedom is the new one you're writing.