How do I stop feeling selfish for prioritizing my own needs and boundaries?

Mirabai spent her life in devotion—but not to anyone's idea of who she should be. She chose what mattered to her, even when it cost her everything society expected. That's not selfishness. That's integrity. The guilt you're feeling probably comes from being told that love means dissolving into someone else's needs. It doesn't. Real love—the kind that lasts, the kind that transforms—begins when you know what you actually want, what you actually need, and you're honest about it. Setting a boundary isn't rejection. It's clarity. When you say no to what drains you, you're saying yes to showing up authentically for the people who matter. You can't pour from an empty cup, and more than that: you can't love genuinely from a place of resentment or self-abandonment. Start small. Notice one thing this week that you do out of obligation rather than choice. Ask yourself: what would I choose if no one was watching? What would I choose if I trusted that I deserved it? That's not selfishness—that's the examined heart. That's the beginning of real love.