How do I know if I'm actually practicing self-love or just being selfish and avoidant?
Mirabai teaches us that real devotion—even devotion to ourselves—requires honest examination. The difference often comes down to what happens after. Selfishness numbs; self-love clarifies. When you set a boundary or say no to something, notice: Are you running away from discomfort, or running toward your own wholeness? Mirabai didn't abandon her family to escape—she left because staying would have meant abandoning her deepest self. True self-love sometimes looks like the harder choice, not the easier one. It involves grief. It means sitting with uncomfortable feelings instead of soothing them away. Ask yourself: Does this action help me know myself better, or does it help me avoid knowing myself? One feeds your freedom. The other just feeds your fear. The examined heart knows the difference.