How do I know if I'm in love or just attached to someone?

Mirabai knew the difference in her bones. She loved Krishna with a devotion that didn't need reciprocation or proof—it was radical, almost unreasonable. Attachment, by contrast, is what we build when we need something from someone else to feel whole. Here's what to notice: Does your love expand you or contract you? Real love—whether human or divine—makes you braver, more generous, more willing to examine yourself honestly. Attachment makes you smaller. It whispers: *they must love me back, they must stay, they must prove I matter.* Love whispers something different: *I see you, and that seeing is enough for me to grow.* Mirabai danced alone in her room, singing to a god who wouldn't answer back in human words. She wasn't waiting for rescue. She was already free. That's the difference. Attachment needs the other person to complete a story. Love is the story, whether the other person shows up or not. The hard part? We often call attachment love because we've confused need with devotion. This week, notice: When you think of this person, do you feel called to become more yourself? Or do you feel called to become what you think they need? One is love. One is negotiation.