How do I know when I'm ready to talk about my friend's death with others?

Mirabai knew something about this—about the exact moment when grief needs to move from the chest outward, when silence starts to hurt more than words. There's no timeline. Some people are ready in days; others need months of sitting with it alone first. But here's what I've noticed: readiness often feels like a small opening, not a grand decision. Maybe you catch yourself wanting to tell someone a story about them. Maybe you realize you're tired of carrying this alone. That's the signal. Start small. Not with everyone—with one person who won't try to fix you or rush you through it. Someone who can just listen to the specific shape of your grief, not their own ideas about how you should grieve. There's also a practical piece: talking about your friend—really talking, not just announcing they died—actually helps your brain integrate the loss. It's how we move from shock into something that can coexist with our life. Mirabai's devotion was fierce and particular, full of longing and complaint and love all mixed together. Your grief gets to be that specific too. Speak it when you're ready. Not before.