How do I talk to family about my infertility when they keep asking about babies

This is one of the hardest conversations, because family usually means well but their questions can feel like small deaths, repeated. Mirabai knew something about this—about loving people who don't quite understand your grief. She moved through the world refusing to perform the role others expected. You don't owe anyone a detailed medical explanation or a timeline. You can say: "We're not having children" or "This isn't something I want to discuss right now." Both are complete sentences. If they push, you might try: "I know you care. And I need you to trust that I'm handling this." The harder part is when you need support but they're not the right people to give it. That's when you might find your real family—the people who can sit with your grief without trying to fix it or minimize it. Mirabai chose her community of devotees over her blood family. Sometimes our examined hearts tell us who actually sees us. Consider writing down what you actually need (listening, not advice; presence, not platitudes), and share that with one trusted person. You're not responsible for managing their disappointment about the grandchildren they imagined.