Why do I feel resentful after giving so much love and effort?

Mirabai's devotion was ecstatic, but it was also grieved. She loved without guarantee of return—not because she was a saint, but because she examined that longing closely enough to see what it actually was. When resentment builds, it often means you've been loving from a hidden expectation. You've given generously, yes, but with an unspoken price tag: recognition, reciprocation, transformation of the other person. That's a heavy burden to place on someone without them agreeing to carry it. The examined heart asks: What did I actually *want* to happen? Was I trying to earn something—security, worth, change? Because love given as an investment rarely pays the dividends we imagine. This doesn't mean stop giving. It means get honest about what you're actually seeking. Can you give some things without needing them returned in kind? What *can* you genuinely give freely? And what do you actually need, not as a reward, but as fuel for your own life? Start there. The resentment often dissolves when you stop conflating love with transaction.