Why do I feel grief in love even when the relationship is good?

Mirabai knew something that modern love culture doesn't teach: love and grief are entangled. You grieve not because something is broken, but because something is real. Real love means real loss—the loss of the person you were before they mattered so much, the constant loss of moments passing, the knowledge that nothing lasts forever. This isn't pathology. It's depth. When you truly open to someone, you become vulnerable to time itself. You feel their mortality. You feel your own. Mirabai's poetry is drenched in longing, even (or especially) when she's describing union with the divine. She grieves the distances—physical, spiritual, temporal. That ache is evidence of love's realness. The mistake is thinking you should be happy all the time. The examined heart knows better. You can be deeply content and deeply sad in the same moment. You can love someone completely and mourn what loving them costs you. Instead of trying to fix the grief, try naming it specifically. What exactly are you grieving? The way things change? The things you can't have? The person they could become but won't? Grief clarified becomes wisdom. It teaches you what matters.