What should I do when grief pain makes it hard to move or function?

There's a moment in grief when the body says *no more*. Your legs won't carry you. Your hands forget how to hold a cup. This isn't laziness or depression spiraling—it's saturation. You've hit your limit. Mirabai had days when she could only sit in the temple courtyard, unable to dance, unable to sing. Her teacher didn't tell her to snap out of it. He sat beside her. You need permission to stop. Not to stop grieving, but to stop expecting yourself to function at normal capacity. Here's what helps: lower the bar radically. Today, functioning might mean drinking water and sitting in sunlight. Tomorrow, maybe a short walk. Your nervous system is recalibrating around absence. This takes time and gentleness. If you're stuck in this paralysis for weeks without any small movements forward, that's a moment to reach out—to a grief counselor, a trusted friend, someone who understands that physical immobility during grief isn't weakness. It's information. Your body is telling you it needs support. Listen. Ask for it.