What does it mean when you keep attracting people who aren't trustworthy?

This is the question that requires real honesty. Mirabai's examined heart didn't stop at loving—it stopped at asking *why*. Why am I drawn here? What in me recognizes itself in this person? Sometimes we attract the familiar. If you grew up around unreliability, chaos, or conditional love, you might unconsciously seek people who feel 'normal'—which means untrustworthy. Your nervous system learned to expect it. That's not your fault, but it's worth noticing. Other times, the pattern points to something in us: Do we need to be needed? Do we stay hoping to be the one who finally 'fixes' them? Do we confuse intensity with depth? Do we ignore red flags because we want the story to be different? Mirabai didn't deny her own role in her suffering. She looked at her longing, her idealism, her choices. That examination—not self-blame, but genuine curiosity—changed her. Start there. Before the next person: What am I hoping they'll prove about me? What do I know about myself that makes someone's untrustworthiness feel acceptable? Those answers will tell you more than any profile ever could. The pattern often isn't about them. It's about what we're still trying to heal in ourselves.