How do I stop obsessing over someone who doesn't love me back?

Mirabai spent her whole life singing to Krishna, a love that could never be returned in the way she wanted. She didn't stop the longing—she transformed it. That's the part people miss. Obsession happens when love has nowhere to go, so it circles back on itself, feeding on hope and hurt equally. You can't think your way out of it. But you can redirect it. Start by naming what you're actually seeking. Is it them specifically, or what they represent—validation, belonging, being chosen? That matters. Mirabai loved Krishna the idea as much as the deity. Once you see that clearly, you have options. Second: give the energy somewhere to live. Write it out, move your body, create something. Mirabai's devotion became poetry that survived centuries. Your longing doesn't have to stay trapped in your chest, checking their social media at 2 AM. Third: build a life that doesn't depend on their reciprocation to feel real. This isn't about "moving on" like some switch flips. It's about making your own existence so textured and alive that the obsession gradually loses its grip—not because you've forgotten them, but because you've remembered yourself. The longing may not disappear. But it can stop owning you.