What do I do with grief after love ends or someone I love dies?

Mirabai knew grief intimately. She loved a god she could never hold, watched her family reject her devotion, lost everything that didn't fit her examined heart. She didn't get over it. She lived through it, and her poetry became more luminous because of what broke. Grief after love isn't something to fix or move past quickly. It's the price of having loved truly. When you grieve deeply, you're honoring that the love was real. That matters. Mirabai teaches us that grief and love live in the same space. You can miss someone and still let them go. You can cry for what's lost and still feel gratitude for what was. The examined heart holds both without needing to choose. Here's what helps: Don't rush the grief. Let it move through you in waves—some days sharper, some days gentler. Write it, sing it, sit with it. Talk to people who won't try to convince you to be fine yet. Find one small ritual that honors what you loved—light a candle, revisit a place, reread old messages. And remember: carrying grief isn't weakness. It's proof your love was large enough to leave an absence when it went.